Detailed Information concerning our Family Needs
With over 10 years of full time itinerant evangelism, I have stayed in a variety of places across the country and the world. Some ask for packets of information that give our likes and dislikes etc. For years I have resisted because I have felt some may view it as a list of demands/requirements. This bit of information is what I simply call JSYK information. This is by NO MEANS required for us to come to a church in fact it is embedded in our website in such a way that is not easily found unless one is “SEARCHING” I have no words to express that the things listed are simply preferences.
When the maintenance of our life goes down we are able to minister on a higher lever. In reality accommodations/schedules DO matter. I stopped traveling with a 5th wheel trailer frankly because the ‘maintenance of life’ was too high. When traveling with a 5th wheel, to simply ‘show up’ at a church required nearly 60% of my total output. This translated that I could not focus on preaching, fellowshipping, and studying with my present circumstances.
ACCOMMODATIONS: Accommodations that help with the ‘maintenance of life’ would be places that are clean, (mainly free of pests) having a bathroom that is not shared, a separate room for the kids and kitchen are always a plus, and definitely privacy. The latter is probably one of the most important. If we can never ‘shut the door’ per se, the maintenance of life skyrockets because we are ‘always on.’ Many times people inquire about which accommodations are preferred, whether homes, hotels, or prophets chamber. Honestly, the above requirements supersede the venue. We have had some of the best stays in all 3 of those categories. Please do not see one as more desirable than the other, it truly depends on how it is implemented
SCHEDULE: The schedule is so important. Probably the top most frustrating occurrences happens around the schedule of the week. A normal/unfortunate situation that occurs often would be this…Nothing has been said about a meal being available after our arrival and our family has privately planned an evening, then we are told that there is meal for us ‘if we would like.’ The wife has already prepared the meal and is waiting for us at 6p however when we politely decline it is a problem. We did not know. We drove the entire day and had no idea there was a meal being prepared for our family. Communication within the schedule is so important. We do homeschool year-round and have other responsibilities throughout each week as well. When we discuss these details weeks in advance, it helps us to know what to expect when we arrive whether we should arrive early and catch a quick nap etc. We are by no means antisocial, however we enjoy the luxury of planning some of our week.
FUN DAYS: Every city has its unique beauty and unique sights. As a family we always enjoy taking them all in however Zoo Day on Monday, Park Day on Tuesday etc…tends to be an overwhelming schedule. Once in a week (if at all) is more than plenty for us to enjoy a city or its sites.
MEALS: For our family this area does not have venue preferences (homes vs restaurants). Every church and region of the country is different so its hard to make hard fast preferences. I can only share what one of our favorite set up looks like. In a 4 day revival, we have one day just as a family, one day where just I (Adrian) gets together with pastor/staff, and also the whole family meeting 2 or 3 times for a lunch or dinner during our entire stay. In our minds, in a schedule similar to that we are not hermits nor are we constantly running. Lunch is typically our larger meal of the day, though every week looks very different.
Financial Concerns & Suggestions: Since I consider traveling with my family a luxury, it is a luxury for which I pay for. Sometimes a church for whatever reason is not comfortable with setting up our accommodations. If your church has a per diem, I probably can take that and multiply it. Meaning if you have a budget of $70 a night feel free to contact me and simply give it to us and I will handle our own accommodations. Since we travel all time, I am a gold and platinum member on many travel sites giving me access to many deals, also being a frequent AirBnB user opens up even more doors. Again this is just a suggestion if you are not comfortable with setting up reservations. I sincerely pray the finances of the meeting would not be a distraction from the meeting itself, we can communicate and figure something out!
GLIMPSE INTO US: We are all people and we are all different and this gives you glimpse about us!
Due to an unprofessional diagnosis of Vertigo, sometimes I must sleep in a more upright position therefore translating that PILLOWS are my friend. Many pillows help me to truly rest well.
Concerning my diet specifically, I love a good burger. The grill is my friend and if you add Mac and Cheese or Cheesecake I have just ascended to the heavens!
The texture of very moist items are hard for me to eat. Many times at restaurants I will separate my burger and bun till I put them together right before I eat it. It’s strange, I know, however bread or cake that is is soggy, for me is pretty much inedible for me.
For entertainment I am a pretty big into electronics therefore for entertainment I am consistently on the internet investigating things or trying new tech out.
I do enjoy NBA and College Basketball. UNC fan and I love watching Kevin Durant play! I enjoy all things Mario as well.
I guard my study time, if that means declining dinners or other events, I will politely do so because I have been invited for a specific purpose and I want to make sure that I am more than ready to go.
I love my family and enjoy the social atmosphere but it helps to have my private time to recharge my social battery.
Concerning my diet, I try to eat healthier and enjoy a variety of salads and fruits, however Ghiradelli Dark Chocolate (Sea Salt Soiree) is my guilty pleasure. I love a cup of coffee in the morning and am a big fan of flavored creamers.
Entertainment = Shopping. For nearly every gift, outing, or vacation. If I get the time I will probably visit your Outlet Mall, Ross, or T.J. Maxx.
I LOVE to draw. Too many crayons and markers is an impossibility. I can make a craft out of anything, and if you have a guided craft then all the better.
Concerning my diet, I am like my dad with the texture thing but in a slightly different way. I struggle with the texture of mashed potatoes, casseroles, chicken pot pie, and ALL things similar. My treat is a York Peppermint Patty.
I love meeting new kids at church. My question for my dad is usually….”Does the Pastor here have friends?” (CODE: FRIENDS=CHILDREN)
I LOVE to do ANYTHING my family is doing. I’m a perfect chameleon. If drawing, playing outside, or reading a book, is on the agenda then I’m good
Concerning my diet, it is identical to that of my older sister. The texture thing is Daddy’s fault. I do not eat a whole lot of sweets and desserts but I do love M&M’s and Trident Gum when mom and dad let me.
I also love meeting the new kids at church, but I do also have to recharge my social battery every now and then by going home and playing Mario Party with Daddy.
The family has no known food allergies or reactions.
Jasmine has struggled for years with allergies and we just recently were surprised to find (through testing) that the source was not at all what we thought. She is allergic to cat dander, and her most severe allergy is to dust mites. We now try to bring her own allergy friendly pillow and have her use her own blanket (instead of a comforter) that we can wash as often as needed. If she does react to something in a place where we are staying her allergy medicines typically work well enough for her to get through the week with minimal symptoms.